If you enjoy being controlled in other ways, chances are you'll also enjoy orgasm control when your partner takes charge of your climax. It is a deep, primordial loss of self-definition that greatly enhances any sexual experience and is what is found in the vast majority of BDSM conventions.
Orgasm control takes many forms: some people use chastity devices to achieve it, while others rely on sheer willpower. Often this is expressed in the discipline of the lower, which is not allowed to reach orgasm without the prior request and permission of the dominant partner. For violating the ban, they risk being punished.
You can practice orgasm control on your own. This is often referred to as edging when you get close to the edge and stop. Repeatedly doing this leads to amazing orgasms. You can also train yourself to experience orgasms as a pleasure from doing certain chores around the house or not doing them when you do something wrong.
To control orgasm, it is important to understand the stages of arousal:
● Excitation. Your skin begins to turn red, your muscles tense up, your heart rate increases, and blood begins to drain rapidly toward your penis, clitoris, or vagina. The vagina gets wet and the scrotum retracts.
● Plateau. Everything that happened in stage 1 becomes even more stressful. You feel that you are getting closer and closer to orgasm. This is the stage where you should prepare to stop or slow down the stimulation.
● Orgasm. A series of nervous and muscular reactions brings you into a sense of ecstasy. There is a sharp increase in lubrication in the vagina or ejaculation of sperm from the penis. But when you're in orgasm control, that's the stage you try to avoid until you're ready.
● Calm. After orgasm, the tissues return to their unexcited size and color, and all of your vital organs return to normal as well. The refractory period begins. This is the time period when you can't get turned on again. It can last from a few minutes to several days or longer.
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